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Raamatusoovitus:Mida iga lapsevanem peaks lugema:?









Kui ma võrdlen praeguse ja varasema aegseid kasvatusmeetodeid siis välja tooksin suure erinevuse just suhtlemise osas.Tüüpiline pilt on praegu see, et paljud lapsevanemad istuvad mobiilis ja ei suhtle lastega.Kui suhtlevad siis pinnapealselt.Jah vanasti olid vb kasvatusstiil teine,aga lapsele pöörati tähelepanu.Ta kaasati talutöödesse.Aga ok see selleks.Räägin hoopis ,mis silma jääb ja mis töötab ja samuti ka ühest heast raamatust.(Grodon, "Tark lapsevanem"
Kõige enam silmatorkavam kasvatuses on see kui lihtne on lapse peale karjuda ja häält tõsta,samal ajal arvates ,et aga ta ju kuulab.Ei kuula ja see ei tööta enam.Kõige enam töötab kui vaatad silma ja konkreetselt ütled, mitte käskivalt vaid teed kokkuleppe.Ala nt teeme kokkuleppe ,jääyisy  sööd kui oled suppi söönud vms.
Mis siis veel?ära kuulamis oskus.Kui laps tuleb ka sul pole aega,ütle teeme nii,kui ma pesen nõud ära siis tulen sinuga mängima.Janii teedki, sa pead oma sõna pidama!
3.kasvata usaldus-kui lubad siis ka teed!
4.püüa kasutada vähem sõna :ära tee,ära istu ja soovitus vaheta see sõna stopvastu.
5.õpi oma heakskiitu väljendama nii,et laps seda tunnetab.(väljenda heakskiitu sellega,et ära sekku nt kui laps teeb midagi,millega saab ise hakkama.
6.kasuta mina sõnumit ja väljenda oma tundeid
"Tark lapsevanem"Dr T.Gordon

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