Once upon a time,
there was a boy. He lived in a village that no longer exists, in a house that
no longer exists, on the edge of a field that no longer exists, where
everything was discovered, and everything was possible. A stick could be a
sword, a pebble could be a diamond, a tree, a castle. Once upon a time, there
was a boy who lived in a house across the field, from a girl who no longer
exists. They made up a thousand games. She was queen and he was king. In the
autumn light her hair shone like a crown. They collected the world in small
handfuls, and when the sky grew dark, and they parted with leaves in their
hair.
Once upon a time there was a boy who loved a girl, and her laughter was a question he wanted to spend his whole life answering.”
― Nicole Krauss, The History of Love
If from now
one you think back time, when you were a kid, then think what kind of
childhood you had. Do you still have good memories or bad one. ?
How did yr parents raising you?What did you learn from them?
Did they had good relationship from each other?How they treated each other?
This post its about childhood and how it can
affect you. and you totally depends on
your parents they ll take care you, and they are responsible, also they are
model for you. Everyday you learn from them.
Ofcourse I
have no clue , which kind of childhood you (my dear reader )had, but that
dosent matter, cause now I describe different type and how they affect you.
Its just
start to think, you are living with yr parents more than 18 years.
Inevitable is that hey haven’t molded
you, ofcourse they did it. But my point is , that if you understand it and
admit it and example you trying to
act different way. You can creat your
future, and behave , if you really want and wish.
Especially most effective ( what
scines say is first of 3years.A person brain develope until that time, kid is
like a sponge and swallow all information what they can get.If they raise in
family where is psyhical abuse they ll start to take it later like a normal
behave , when they become asn an adults.Cause they had been saw it and they
dont know how to communicate without using hands.They dont understand that for
to communicate yu need words not hands.The first main experience with man(
example) start to develope thanks to your father( uncle, grandfather or
stepfather) and you ll realize how to act , if you are with man, also worldview
ll develope about how you should act.The brain saves it and use this patterns
again and again cause yu ll need to survive this childhood age pain again.Then
also unconsciously yu start to search those patterns and yur prediction is
insecure and yu start to belive that there is no other way.
Or the
other hand if you haven’t got any parents model father/ mother example they ll not have
experience with empathy and carring and they dont know how to share it to
others people.Human body needs carring as a example cause we have limbetic
system as a part of brain.And limbetic system decreases all feelings.
If we ll
get experience with consicous parent , then ll get experinece how to build good
relationship and what is the meaning of love.We ll get know that any
relationship can be pleasure if it is commit us and when it is creative.The
best feedback what we get is approval,attention and affect.
If you
are child who has been born one of family where is both father and mother, and
there is healthy relationship between then , then you had persistent and
considerate take -care.( book The boy , who was raised as a dog)Bruce
Perry.
Well its
really count how and where yu raised, who are you parents and which model of
them has model you. Kids need to be loved and they need a good relationship
model, they need to be see loving parents , cause thanks to that, they ll
become a happy people and later they will continue that pattern in the
future.
Childhood
means simplicity. Look at the world with the child's eye - it is very
beautiful.Kailash Satyarthi.
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