Mis on vaimse vägivalla tunnused- kuidas ära tunda suhtes kui su kallal kasutab partner vaimset vägivalda?What are main signs of emotional abuse-how to regonize it?
“The only person that deserves a special place in your life is someone that never made you feel like you were an option in theirs.”
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Palju räägitakse füüsilisest vägivallast, sellega on ka teada piirid ,et kui ikka suhtes toimub löömine, lükkamine tõukamine või mis iganes muu füüsiline vägivald siis inimesed tunnetavad selle ära , paljud teevad midagi , otsivad abi, aga on ka neid, kes ei otsi- see selleks, ma ei tahtnud füüsilisest rääkida tegelikult, mitte et see pole oluline teema- on , aga sellest räägitakse niigi palju.
Kui palju sa austad teist inimest ja vihases või närvilises olekus räägid rahulikult..
Niisiis vaimne vägivald on nt karjumine, mõnitamine, tänitamine, kontrollimine(ka oma kaasa facebooki sõnumite lugemine, emaili lugemine, tema telefonis sorteerimine), hirmutamine:Kui sa seda ei tee, lahutan ma sinust ja sa jääd üksi, Kuidas sa siis hakkama saad, sa oled nii loll ja lohakas jne.Ütleks, et isegi paljud lapsevanemad kasutavad neid väljendeid oma laste peal. Aga seekõik on suhtlemistõkked. See ei pane lapsi teie tahtmisi järgima, vaid peletab nad eemale.
Samuti igasugune alandamine, sa ei suuda seda teha, sina ja ülikooli-ära tee nalja jne.
Ühesõnaga hakka jälgima , kuidas sa räägid oma lähedastega. Kui palju sa tegelikult ise kasutad ja mis keeles sa inimestega räägid. Näpuga on hea näidata- tema teeb vms, aga tegelikult kasutad ka ise.
Ka paljud uskumused , mis eelmised põlvkonnad on meile õpetanud , on omaette teema.
Sa nagunii ei jõuagi kaugemale-meie pole jõudnud ära mitte loodagi jne.
Nii, et tegelikult on seda igalpool.
There is a lot of talk about self-perpetrators of violence, it also knows the limits that if there is still a hitting, pushing push or whatever physical violence then people perceive it, many do something, seek help, but there are also those who are not looking for it , I did not want to actually speak of myself, and not that it is not an important topic, but there is so much talk about it.
I think that the most important topic is spiritual violence, which is still tolerated, silenced, simply not made out and considered normal - but my grandparents did - they screamed at each other - why can not I raise my voice, or my grandmother has always fooled, mocked-wolf. In fact- all of this is spiritual violence-it leaves a trace of a person's soul, while not explaining the real feelings that a person feels at that moment.
Now you can think of how much you see in normal street communication on the street. How much actually we use our messages in the area of style. I'm frustrated because .... or I'm angry because .. very little.
How much do you respect the other person and calmly talk about anger or nervous state.
So mental violence is, for example, screaming, mocking, reprimanding, controlling (including reading your facebook messages, reading emails, sorting on your phone), intimidation: if you do not, I'll cut you off and you'll stay alone, how can you do it? you're so stupid and sluggish, etc. It would seem that even many parents use these expressions on their children. But this is a barrier to communication. It does not put children in your will, but will shave them away.
Also, any humiliation, you can not do it, you and the university-do not make jokes, and so on.
In a word, start watching you talk to your loved ones. How much do you actually use and what language do you speak with people? It's a good idea to see your face - it does something like that, but you actually use it yourself.
Many of the beliefs that the previous generations have taught us is a separate topic.
You can not go any further - we have not come to the end, and so on.
Actually you can see it everywhere.
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Palju räägitakse füüsilisest vägivallast, sellega on ka teada piirid ,et kui ikka suhtes toimub löömine, lükkamine tõukamine või mis iganes muu füüsiline vägivald siis inimesed tunnetavad selle ära , paljud teevad midagi , otsivad abi, aga on ka neid, kes ei otsi- see selleks, ma ei tahtnud füüsilisest rääkida tegelikult, mitte et see pole oluline teema- on , aga sellest räägitakse niigi palju.
Minu meelest olulisem teema on vaimne vägivald- sest siiamaani seda talutakse, vaikitakse maha , lihtsalt ei tehta välja ja peetakse normaalseks- aga minu vanavanemad ju tegid -nemad karjusid üksteise peale-miks siis mina ei tohi häält tõsta, või minu vanaema on alati näägutanud, mõnitanud -vms.Tegelikult- see kõik on ka vaimne vägivald- see jätab inimese hinge jälje, samas ei seleta see tegelikke tundeid- mida inimene sel hetkel tunneb.
Nüüd võid mõelda, kui palju sa tänava pildis näed normaalselt suhtlemist. Kui palju tegelikult me kasutame mina sõnumeid ala stiilis. Ma olen pettunud, sest ....või ma olen vihane, sest .. väga vähe.Kui palju sa austad teist inimest ja vihases või närvilises olekus räägid rahulikult..
Niisiis vaimne vägivald on nt karjumine, mõnitamine, tänitamine, kontrollimine(ka oma kaasa facebooki sõnumite lugemine, emaili lugemine, tema telefonis sorteerimine), hirmutamine:Kui sa seda ei tee, lahutan ma sinust ja sa jääd üksi, Kuidas sa siis hakkama saad, sa oled nii loll ja lohakas jne.Ütleks, et isegi paljud lapsevanemad kasutavad neid väljendeid oma laste peal. Aga seekõik on suhtlemistõkked. See ei pane lapsi teie tahtmisi järgima, vaid peletab nad eemale.
Samuti igasugune alandamine, sa ei suuda seda teha, sina ja ülikooli-ära tee nalja jne.
Ühesõnaga hakka jälgima , kuidas sa räägid oma lähedastega. Kui palju sa tegelikult ise kasutad ja mis keeles sa inimestega räägid. Näpuga on hea näidata- tema teeb vms, aga tegelikult kasutad ka ise.
Ka paljud uskumused , mis eelmised põlvkonnad on meile õpetanud , on omaette teema.
Sa nagunii ei jõuagi kaugemale-meie pole jõudnud ära mitte loodagi jne.
Nii, et tegelikult on seda igalpool.
There is a lot of talk about self-perpetrators of violence, it also knows the limits that if there is still a hitting, pushing push or whatever physical violence then people perceive it, many do something, seek help, but there are also those who are not looking for it , I did not want to actually speak of myself, and not that it is not an important topic, but there is so much talk about it.
I think that the most important topic is spiritual violence, which is still tolerated, silenced, simply not made out and considered normal - but my grandparents did - they screamed at each other - why can not I raise my voice, or my grandmother has always fooled, mocked-wolf. In fact- all of this is spiritual violence-it leaves a trace of a person's soul, while not explaining the real feelings that a person feels at that moment.
Now you can think of how much you see in normal street communication on the street. How much actually we use our messages in the area of style. I'm frustrated because .... or I'm angry because .. very little.
How much do you respect the other person and calmly talk about anger or nervous state.
So mental violence is, for example, screaming, mocking, reprimanding, controlling (including reading your facebook messages, reading emails, sorting on your phone), intimidation: if you do not, I'll cut you off and you'll stay alone, how can you do it? you're so stupid and sluggish, etc. It would seem that even many parents use these expressions on their children. But this is a barrier to communication. It does not put children in your will, but will shave them away.
Also, any humiliation, you can not do it, you and the university-do not make jokes, and so on.
In a word, start watching you talk to your loved ones. How much do you actually use and what language do you speak with people? It's a good idea to see your face - it does something like that, but you actually use it yourself.
Many of the beliefs that the previous generations have taught us is a separate topic.
You can not go any further - we have not come to the end, and so on.
Actually you can see it everywhere.
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