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Is it normal to feel angry?


Is it normal to feel angry?
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No matter how angry you ll get, you always end up forgiving the people you love.


To feels angry is part of our life. You are human- I am, and we have feelings.We all feel angry- kids, adults, teenagers.
Yes sometimes we just feel it, but we just let it out, and the problem is sold.
To feel angry is normal.
The  3 main reasons  - why we feel angry are
  • threatened or attacked
  • frustrated or powerless
  • like we're being treated unfairly(Here is link)
  • What else angry gives us ?
  • Angry allows us to understand whats going on with us, what had happened.
  • Also angry means - that we dont get what we want. This  is alarm signal   makes us to stop, cause we need to adapt this situation
  • We need to allow this feeling out, cause another way we stuck lifeless status.
  • ·         If we get to know feeling- to become angry, then we can get rid off past and pain
  • To get rid of anger gives us an opportunity to feel love again.
  • The spectrum of anger ranges from mild frustration and annoyance to out of control rage; affecting your emotional, physical and cerebral state. The part of the brain that responds first when anger strikes is the amygdala. You can find it located deep within the temporal lobe of the brain.
    brain amygdala
    The amygdala controls emotion and the instinctive ‘fight or flight’ response to fear, feeling threatened and stress. It is able to process a magnitude of information, assessing the possible dangers within milliseconds; allowing you to react first and think later.
  • Above the amygdala within the frontal lobe lies the ability to make decisions, solve problems and behavior. When anger hits, blood rushes through the frontal cortex clouding rational thought; depending on the person, this flash reaction can be either helpful or harmful. The old adage of ‘count to ten before reacting’ comes in handy here.
    The domino effect of anger continues with the adrenal glands saturating the system with the stress hormones adrenaline and cortisol, giving you a burst of energy and added strength. This redirects blood flow to the stomach and intestines to the muscles instead, in preparation to fight. Your blood pressure, pain threshold and temperature rise, breathing and heart rate increase, the pupils begin to dilate.(This is what happens if you body feels angry
  • Mars and Venus ,"Starting over"John Gray.Ph.D
  • Here is one video about it
  • Now how to manage with angry?
  • Feel this emotion- you should to feel it , its ok to feel angry.
  • accept thoughts which angry brings up- better if you tell those thoughts (example .Im angry cause......
  • analyses this process
  • make a decision, what to do, how to solve it 
  • dont let it to take control of your life. (Don't scream- cause this is not a solution. Better it is to back off- go to another room, and calm down.Take time off and just relax. Also if you are calmed already then start to think, what you should do.
  • If the moment is right, then you can discuss it
  • Take responsibility for your angry 
  • Speak with those people who you can trust the most
  • Get rid off this angry energy and move on.
  • Don't hurt anybody cause you are angry.
  • you can even write letters if it helps to release.
  • get rid off your guilty feeling.(Codependent No more)Melody Beattie.




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