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What did i learn from this year?2017

Ihave been living here on earth pretty long by now, but the feeling is like im older than that, and have many of experience with people and life. Funny is that i should be young.But don't feel that :D well also i don't feel that im retire:D or something or really old, itsjust life has given me many good experiences and same time bad, but i never complained, oh my goodness why it happened or smt.I know you get all these experience, cause you came here to develop.So im grateful, that im alive;)And become better human:) I like to get the jump over obstacles and to stand up again. Its all cause of i ll get stronger and more open. Well at least this is what i feel, i have learned a lot and especially from this year which start to be end soon:) I learned a lot, but the most effective was i understand that1. quality time-the time here is limited. And its really is- so you need to give maximum, i understand how important is to find that time and spend it with people who you lov...

Why its necessary to love yourself?

What i want to say here is- love yourself. Because this is beginning of the all  kind of relationship. Then after you can love yr partner and kids and family, relatives and world.What i had been noticed Why we are doing things what we dont want to do.Why we eat just for to fill the stomach?Your body needs better than just something What is really important and you must learn is to say no, im not gonna do it. You dont have to do all duties, you can choose.Especially even at your workplace, you can choose ,and if some obligations or duties is too much , you can say no.Listen your body and heart-they tell if you had a cross on the line.Come on you have only this life, so enjoy every day every minute and hour.Find that purpose what you love. You should love without unconditional and you are filled of love. Also is important not to lock your heart, be open and the door ll  be open for you, its not necessary to fear of love and happiness.To open your heart gives an oppor...

What is the meaning of life?

I'm starting this blog with quotes what I found from book P.Coelho" O Alquimista" Its sounds like this; "What is the biggest mistake in our life? Asked the boy surprisingly. It is, if we lose control of our life one moment, and we don't understand whats going on, then destiny will lead our life.This is the biggest mistake. So what is need to realize is you need to take a control of yr life, if you want something to change, then start to think and be active. If you want something, the Universum ll help you to get it.Trust me it will:D You should know something, .- where ever you are at moment in yur life- this is the right moment.So start to enjoy every minute what you have. I exactly know what is  for wait something and to hope and hope and then you give up, cause yu know its not gonna happening, but then when you had given up it ll happen.:) - you just waiting.So stop it- stop to do it.!Start to think what are those good things what you already...

Mourning(grief) and sorrow- how to accept it and how to go ahead?

Mourning and sorrow- how to accept it and how to go ahead? A couple of weeks ago. i didn't know what topics i should write here, but then i started to read a book  about how to move on with your life after mourning and grief. This year has been really hard for me as well, but the same time it has been the most active year personality, cause im on the way , who i  wanna go and what i want to achieve. Its just some people had left out of my life , so this is the reason why i  got that feeling - i need to write about mourning and moving, and also how to move on and enjoy every day. How to smile again, and how to open your heart for all the good things.:)  At school, we don’t learn how to treat our heart. What to do with feelings and sorrow. Death and mourning are part of life, like birth. Death is a biological event, which means end of life. In open relationship people can share their feelings, thoughts, fantasy and experiment with othe...

Why we feel-fear?

Our life brings us up and down. Many of us show "happy face"   but the reality is you still have this fear behind of it. The biggest fear what we have is that one day we ll be dead and no exist anymore.We have fear to lose everything that we have.Also we still thinking, that to be happy, we need to get out of fear, or we should ignore it. Although we can ignore the fear- its still exist. Only way how to relieve the fear is we need to admit it. Usually, we feel fear cause of things,  we cannot control.We are worry cause of sickness, cause of we dont have money, we are afraid of losing our relatives,  partners, kids -people -who we loved the most.The fear force us to remind past and to think about future. The first step is to  1. admit it There are many people who hate their parent- they are so angry and frustrated and disappointed that they cannot contact them and to forgive.We cannot cut our family tree. They are the parent and you need to accept it. S...

Special edition-what exactly man think, and what think women? Why men are from Mars and women from Venus?why its so hard to understand, what man think?

Many research has been shown that there is a difference between women and man brain constructor. Although those researchers describe concrete differences, we cannot say, what they exactly mean. Generally, know that fact women uses both of side brain at the same time, and man is using one by one each time. It means man can use only left(language) or right one (sold the problem). Example man can handle feelings if he solves the problems quietly- it means the man is like a hunter and when he adapts his rolls, he also manages such kind of feeling his own self like angry, scared, losing. A woman is adapted take -care roll- it means she had learned how do express her feeling, and emotions, and if she gets some problem, then she discuss it with her family members. This difference is  coming from childhood already- cause example if i  had been learned that i can share my feelings with my friends and parents, then in the future ill trust them and i know i can share, ca...

Regressioonteraapia -kohtumine ja lahtilaskmine isast osa 2

Ma pole varem end elusees tundnud nii vabana ja kergendunult kui kahe viimase nädala jooksul.Koguaeg oli tunne , et mingi raskus on südames ja edasi minna raske.Raske oli just lahtilaskmine ja andestamine.Aga läbi nende me tajume , et oleme vabad.Tänane regressiooniteraapia oli taas väga võimas kogemus.Algul nagu ikka võttis aega sisseminek-isenendasse.Nägin punast valgust ja ma ei tundnud oma käsi ühel hetkel.Olin nagu ilma nendeta.Ühel hetkel nägin ja tajusin oma kõrval tädi (kes siit ilmast paar kuud tagasi lahkus) ,kes võttis mult käest kinni ja turvatunnet pakkus.Mul oli temaga väga soe olla,tundsin julgust minna veel sügavamale enda sisse.Korraga nägin enda isa seismas ja tundsin ärevust ,aga kuna mu tädi endiselt julgustas ja toetas mind siis mul kadus igasugune hirm isaga kohtumise ees.Seejärel nägin halbu pilte lapsena kogetud (taas kus ma värisen ja kardan), aga siis saabus mu südamesse rahu, sest ma reaalselt tundsin, et ma pole üksi selles võistluses, hirmus.Minuga on...

What is codependent?(co addiction)

 A codependent is like you are losing yourself. A codependent person is an individual who develops patterns within their relationships where the codependent individual has a one-sided relationship with another person. In these relationships, the codependent individual ignores personal needs and suppresses emotions in favor of the other person in the relationship. [1] And therein learns that ignoring others' needs and suppressing their emotions is ok. If you are worried you might be codependent, there are ways to help you determine if you are.ent is  Usually, a codependent appearing in special family-model called by dysfunctional. It means in this family there are points example: #problems are ignored #supporting illusion #lack of intimacy #dysfunctional family member (one of)is bossing others #the rules of roles developing and also blocking.Example father is drunker, the mother is a victim or the opposite. #everyday conflicts #   https://www.wikihow.com/Te...

Mees ja naine-kolmnurgad?, kuidas käitume stressi olukorras?

Viimase aastasaja jooksul on ühiskonnas muutunud mehe ja naise roll.On normaalne kui inimene elab ka üksi, vanasti elati aga kogukonnas. Naised on samamoodi asunud tegema karjääri, haaranud juhtimise oma kätte.Ja mõned mehed on asunud hoopis ise isadus puhkusele ja kasvatavad lapsi J Kõige tähtsam on paarisuhtes , et minu partner on emotisonaalselt minu jaoks olemas-st ta avab end mulle, jagab oma emotsioone, muidu asi ei toimi. Ehk siis kas ta reageerib ja on olemas, kui vajan teda ,kas mina olen tema jaoks olemas- need on peamised küsimused, mis ootavad vastuseid. Ainult nii toimib liit. Kui nüüd siin kohal tuleb ette stressi olukord siis kuidas sa käitud?Kuidas käitub sinu partner?Kas on 1.turvaline mudel- küsite abi ,usaldad,, räägite ja jagate muresid 2.vältiv muster- kujuneb nendel inimestel, kelle vanemad nt ei vastanud nende vajadustele. Ei reageerinud kui nad vajasid tuge, oma emotsioonide välja näitamist jne. Siin kohal inimene mõtleb, ah mul polegi abi vaja...

Why couples fights?

Something To Fight About: Couples Who Fight The Most, Love Each Other Most Lauren Martin Here are 13 relationship conflicts 1.  Sex .  This is one of the most likely to be unexpressed, as bringing up the subject can make both parties self-conscious when they get in between the sheets, and losing self-consciousness is what sex is all about. However, the differences can be summed up pretty simply. Either one partner wants more, or one partner wants less, or – in a worst-case scenario – both. 2. Tidiness/cleanliness.  Never have there been two people who had exactly the same standards in these areas. To one person, the other will always be a slob. To the slob, the other will be a control freak. Accepting these differences and that there are limits to the amount that the other is capable of changing, is the secret of solving this conundrum. Or, on the other hand, arguing. 3. False memory syndrome.  Many arguments are not about the facts of what hap...

Kuidas taas leida kontakt oma sisemise lapsega ja kuidas saada lahti hirmudest ja blokist, mis seoses lapsepõlvega?

Naljakas kuidas elu viskab sulle teatud olukordi ja mustreid koguaeg nina ette nii kaua, et sa lõpuks aru saad, et ei nii enam minna ei saa, ja sa saad aru, et tahad midagi muuta, sest sisemiselt tunned, et midagi on valesti ja puudu. Ja siis sa tunnistad oma probleemi ja asud otsima lahendust sellele. Minu muster oli pidevalt see, et ma tundsin reaalselt blokki vastassuguga suheldes jah, mul polnud probleemiks see, et ma ei suuda nendega suhelda või  et ma ei suudaks nende seltskonnas viibida, pigem oli probleem tugevamates tunnetes- tunda end nendega vabalt ja turvaliselt. Kuna mu lapsepõlves puudus esimesed kümme aastat selline soe, turvatunnet pakkuv isakuju(esines kõike muud, alkohol, kohati ka halvasti kohtlemine, vägivald siis tahes tahtmata see jätab jälje ja inimene ei oskagi otsida oma kõrvale seda teist mudelit ,sest vana mudel on nii juurdunud. Mõistagi olin mina ohver , kes tundis süütunnet , hirmu ja ma ei osanud ka tol hetkel abi otsida- sest ma olin laps ja e...

Childhood effections?What we take from childhood into real life, after when we become adults?

Once upon a time, there was a boy. He lived in a village that no longer exists, in a house that no longer exists, on the edge of a field that no longer exists, where everything was discovered, and everything was possible. A stick could be a sword, a pebble could be a diamond, a tree, a castle. Once upon a time, there was a boy who lived in a house across the field, from a girl who no longer exists. They made up a thousand games. She was queen and he was king. In the autumn light her hair shone like a crown. They collected the world in small handfuls, and when the sky grew dark, and they parted with leaves in their hair. Once upon a time there was a boy who loved a girl, and her laughter was a question he wanted to spend his whole life answering.”  ―  Nicole Krauss ,  The History of Love If from now one  you think back time, when you were a kid, then think what kind of childhood you had. Do you still have good memories or bad one. ? How did y...