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What is codependent?(co addiction)

 A codependent is like you are losing yourself.
A codependent person is an individual who develops patterns within their relationships where the codependent individual has a one-sided relationship with another person. In these relationships, the codependent individual ignores personal needs and suppresses emotions in favor of the other person in the relationship.[1] And therein learns that ignoring others' needs and suppressing their emotions is ok. If you are worried you might be codependent, there are ways to help you determine if you are.ent is
 Usually, a codependent appearing in special family-model called by dysfunctional. It means in this family there are points example:
#problems are ignored
#supporting illusion
#lack of intimacy
#dysfunctional family member (one of)is bossing others
#the rules of roles developing and also blocking.Example father is drunker, the mother is a victim or the opposite.
#everyday conflicts
#
 https://www.wikihow.com/Tell-if-You-Are-Codependent
Co-addiction is allowed to feel, and think and to feel responsible for others, also take a care, make choices, to take responsibility for others prosperity.
#to feel anxiety, commiseration, guilty
#to get angry if she or he cannot help others
#already know others feelings
#says yes, but actually wants to say no, cannot say no
Also usually have  low self- esteem
Terry Gaspard wrote in his blog( she is therapeutic about relationship patterns- how to find out, are you in this codependent relationship patterns, or not?
People pleasing: You go above and beyond to make others happy. You might avoid confronting your partner about important issues because you fear rejection or worry more about a partner’s feelings than your own.
So in a codependent relationship - co addictive person is the good one, who wants all the best to others, cause its necessary to take control of others.
Co addictive person afraid of to getting  abandonment, and this is reason why they need to  clinging.
http://movingpastdivorce.com/
Recovery for codenpendent:




“Codependency can be difficult to change alone as codependent behaviors are often learned early on and reinforced over many years. Resolving codependency can improve relationships, decrease anxiety and depression, and improve self-esteem,” Erica Holtz, a Huntingdon Valley, Pennsylvania marriage and family therapist, said.
Psychotherapy can help people understand why they overcompensate, fulfill everyone’s needs but their own, or put themselves last. Family therapy and cognitive behavioral therapy are both well suited to treating codependency, although any form of therapy is likely to help. A therapist can help a person identify codependent tendencies, understand why the behaviors were adopted in the first place, and develop self-compassion in order to heal and transform old patterns. According to Holtz, a therapist might work on some of the following aspects to help someone change codependent patterns:
  • Improving self-care: Because codependent individuals tend to focus on the needs of others, their own needs often get pushed to the side. This can become dangerous. Understanding self-care is important for one’s overall well-being.
  • Setting boundaries: Setting limits with others forces them to learn to take responsibility for their own lives and facilitates self-reliance. It also allows the person who is codependent to invest time and energy into himself or herself instead of another person.

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  • Fixing vs. support: Support includes empathetic listening and encouragement. On the other hand, fixing is swooping in and solving problems for other people that they are capable of solving themselves.
  • Helping others in productive ways: Fulfill the need to help others in a productive and healthy way, such as volunteering, instead of through personal relationships that may be unhealthy.
  • Learning about family patterns: Understanding the unhealthy codependent patterns in the family will help make a person sense of how the family relates to one another and how these patterns of relating have transferred to other outside relationships.(Codependent no more, Melany Beauty)
Codependent people can also benefit from meeting with peers in a group-therapy or support-group setting. In fact, the support group Co-Dependents Anonymous (CoDA) was developed based on the Alcoholics Anonymous 12-step model. Al-Anon, a group designed to support the family and friends of alcoholics, is also centered on helping members break their cycles of dependen
https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/issues/codependency


In Estonia you can find specialist and any  help in Libertas clinic
https://libertas.ee/





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