The most important thing is to enjoy your life – to be happy – it’s all that matters. Audrey Hepburn

Viimase aastasaja jooksul on ühiskonnas muutunud mehe ja naise roll.On normaalne kui inimene elab ka üksi, vanasti elati aga kogukonnas. Naised on samamoodi asunud tegema karjääri, haaranud juhtimise oma kätte.Ja mõned mehed on asunud hoopis ise isadus puhkusele ja kasvatavad lapsi J Kõige tähtsam on paarisuhtes , et minu partner on emotisonaalselt minu jaoks olemas-st ta avab end mulle, jagab oma emotsioone, muidu asi ei toimi. Ehk siis kas ta reageerib ja on olemas, kui vajan teda ,kas mina olen tema jaoks olemas- need on peamised küsimused, mis ootavad vastuseid. Ainult nii toimib liit. Kui nüüd siin kohal tuleb ette stressi olukord siis kuidas sa käitud?Kuidas käitub sinu partner?Kas on 1.turvaline mudel- küsite abi ,usaldad,, räägite ja jagate muresid 2.vältiv muster- kujuneb nendel inimestel, kelle vanemad nt ei vastanud nende vajadustele. Ei reageerinud kui nad vajasid tuge, oma emotsioonide välja näitamist jne. Siin kohal inimene mõtleb, ah mul polegi abi vaja...

Something To Fight About: Couples Who Fight The Most, Love Each Other Most Lauren Martin Here are 13 relationship conflicts 1.  Sex .  This is one of the most likely to be unexpressed, as bringing up the subject can make both parties self-conscious when they get in between the sheets, and losing self-consciousness is what sex is all about. However, the differences can be summed up pretty simply. Either one partner wants more, or one partner wants less, or – in a worst-case scenario – both. 2. Tidiness/cleanliness.  Never have there been two people who had exactly the same standards in these areas. To one person, the other will always be a slob. To the slob, the other will be a control freak. Accepting these differences and that there are limits to the amount that the other is capable of changing, is the secret of solving this conundrum. Or, on the other hand, arguing. 3. False memory syndrome.  Many arguments are not about the facts of what hap...

Naljakas kuidas elu viskab sulle teatud olukordi ja mustreid koguaeg nina ette nii kaua, et sa lõpuks aru saad, et ei nii enam minna ei saa, ja sa saad aru, et tahad midagi muuta, sest sisemiselt tunned, et midagi on valesti ja puudu. Ja siis sa tunnistad oma probleemi ja asud otsima lahendust sellele. Minu muster oli pidevalt see, et ma tundsin reaalselt blokki vastassuguga suheldes jah, mul polnud probleemiks see, et ma ei suuda nendega suhelda või  et ma ei suudaks nende seltskonnas viibida, pigem oli probleem tugevamates tunnetes- tunda end nendega vabalt ja turvaliselt. Kuna mu lapsepõlves puudus esimesed kümme aastat selline soe, turvatunnet pakkuv isakuju(esines kõike muud, alkohol, kohati ka halvasti kohtlemine, vägivald siis tahes tahtmata see jätab jälje ja inimene ei oskagi otsida oma kõrvale seda teist mudelit ,sest vana mudel on nii juurdunud. Mõistagi olin mina ohver , kes tundis süütunnet , hirmu ja ma ei osanud ka tol hetkel abi otsida- sest ma olin laps ja e...

Once upon a time, there was a boy. He lived in a village that no longer exists, in a house that no longer exists, on the edge of a field that no longer exists, where everything was discovered, and everything was possible. A stick could be a sword, a pebble could be a diamond, a tree, a castle. Once upon a time, there was a boy who lived in a house across the field, from a girl who no longer exists. They made up a thousand games. She was queen and he was king. In the autumn light her hair shone like a crown. They collected the world in small handfuls, and when the sky grew dark, and they parted with leaves in their hair. Once upon a time there was a boy who loved a girl, and her laughter was a question he wanted to spend his whole life answering.”  ―  Nicole Krauss ,  The History of Love If from now one  you think back time, when you were a kid, then think what kind of childhood you had. Do you still have good memories or bad one. ? How did y...

Yesterday I waited a bus at  the bus stop and I was thinking on my own thoughts, until suddenly I heard that somebody screaming (talking so loudly)Then I saw a man and women and , what was really annoying to hear was, that man shouted to her wife. They didn’t talk , or listening each other , they just screamed. This kind of moments putting yr thinking and makes me really sad,  cause  where is  respecting each other, where disappear listening?It shouldn’t be this way, that we treat our loves really terribly. There is quates abot love ;"In every living there is the desire  For  love"Larence So every human needs somebody by herside, and cannot be alone.This is what human needs. Yes you can say. What are you talking , human can be alone aswell, yeah we can survive , but we are meant to be together, not alone.If human is alone , then they lose themselves. But what kind  of is the  the main type ,what we are looking for??? In recent yea...